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GENECOP


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Mother, after moving in with us in order to keep her safe, fell and broke her hip at 6:30 AM Fri morning. Surgery was done, and all seems to be going well, she is 82, and very tough. I just found out, when my wife and i left, after being in the Hospital for 18 hrs making sure mother was treated with the respect she deserves, was left sitting in pain, wet from her catheter leaking for several hours. Her room mate told us that the nurse on duty basically ignored her requests for help. We confirmed this with my mother, I am obviously pissed off and will be filing a formal complaint against the insensitive moron on duty. As a society that inevitably will age, how can we be so cruel? I will say we have met and been helped by many wonderful and caring people, but one rotten apple is one to many. If you want to be a health care professional you need to care about people, you need a healthy dose of compassion, these are people, mothers, daughters, grandparents, If you are not up to task, PLEASE SEEK ANOTHER PROFESSION.

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Gene ,Sorry your Mother had to endure such poor care after going through what she did.Take it as high up as needed to get this injustice solved.There is no excuse for this kind of care.

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Gene, I feel so bad for you and your Mom.  It is so infuriating when you leave your loved one in the care of people who are supposed to be professionals and this happens.

I used to think that a hospital was a place to go to be cared for but after having my Mom with us for 5 years and in and out of the hospital, I see it as a place to spend as little time as possible.  I know that most everyone in the health care profession are caring individuals are extremely overworked but come on.  If you don't like your job find something else to do.  Life is too short and your bad attitude shouldn't affect others in such a negative way.

I pray that your Mom's hip heals quickly and that she will receive the care that she needs and deserves.  I also pray for strength and peace of mind for you.  Caring for our elderly parents is one of the hardest things we can do and bless you for being there for her.

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GENECOP


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Thanks, I just needed to vent and this forum is a good place for me. Mom was moved to a rehab yesterday, half an hour from our home, she has been there before and likes the staff. I am praying for a full recovery, we have been trying to convince her to come on the road with us Fulltime. Before the accident she would come up to the seasonal site every time we went, she loves it...Thanks again, G

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Your mother is one very lucky woman to have such a caring family. There are so many out there who don't. I hope she is up and running again very soon. Good for you for keeping up with her care.

Vicky

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After spending many days at bedside with my dad on several occaisions in two different nursing facilities and two different hospitals I have observed a couple of things:

> Often when a patient needs something the "In Charge" nurse will turn over the request to a specialized staff member. For example when my dad had soiled his bed, the on duty nurse checked him and then requested the nursing aide to clean up the mess. It took a while for a couple of aides to come and take care of him. This happened a couple of times both in the nursing facilities and emergency room. The aides were busy helping someone else and came as soon as they could.

> Habitual complainers (I know your Mom isn't one) are ignored eventhough they may have a serious problem. One gentleman sharing the room with my dad always complained or needed something. Then when he really needed help (he had ripped open a wound), the nurse was slow to respond. One lady with dementia would just lay in bed at the end of a hall and yell for help every two or three minutes all day long. No one went to check on her each time she yelled. I was walking by one day and saw that she had knocked over her food into her lap, she was yelling for help. I let the nurse know and they assisted her.

> There is a definite schedule the facilities try to adhere to, so some requests are ignored, knowing that due to the schedule, the patient will soon receive what they are asking for. Food, Pain medicine, water, bathing...are some of the requests that I've seen put off due to schedule.

I agree the care in medical fcilities is not where it should be. That's one of the reasons we are taking care of my Dad in our home. Unfortunately in health care, like every other business, certain job titles are assigned certain functions and have to stick to a schedule so the patient may get put aside depending on what the person with the correct job title to perform the needed function is doing.

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Gene,
There is no excuse for the poor care your mom received. Unfortunately life is what it is in many places. Most any profession in corporate America will have employees who are passionate about what they do, and are top notch employees. Then there will be those who could care less about being stellar employees.

I spent 15 years working in a healthcare setting in an administrative role. During that time I met people from both camps.
My grandson was recently hospitalized with appendicitis. He was in the same hospital where I worked so I personally knw many of the nurses. One of them was a bit gruff with my daughter until she made the connection that I was related. She then changed her demeanor.
Needless to say, I personally reported her.

My Dad spent several years in a facility when he moved in the later stages of Parkinson. Fortunately, he was cared for by an excellent staff.

I know none of this will ease the anger you feel. Just wanted to share my experience.

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That is so horrible.  I am sorry that happened. 

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Since I work in LT health care for over 20 years I can tell you the care patients get these days does not compare to the level of care they got even 10 years ago. Most of the CNA's have 18- 20 patients to take care of .. that is bath , dress, toilet, feed they have to help other cna's on the floor with paitents that need 2 aids to assist them. There are alot of them. Then there is me the Rehab person... we work on a tight schedule... our patients are scheduled for us back to back in 60 minute to 75 minutes sessions... there is no room for being late... so the CNA's have to make sure the "rehab patients" are up and ready first.

People need to realize that nursing homes/ rehab centers are profit making businesses and as Medicare makes cuts so does the nursing home. Since there are less and less private pay patients that means they are using Medicare and Medical Assistance money to operate.

I by no means feel you should settle for poor care of your famliy members. You do need to go in and advocate for them. I know from seeing it everyday. The patient that has the most active family gets better care. Everyone knows what time they are coming in so mom is washed, tolieted and dressed. Nusing makes a point of making sure they are happy customers!!!

Gene I hope your mother has a speedy recovery... patti

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Gene, I am so sorry to hear about your mother's treatment. That is terrible. Sounds like she is in good hands now.


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Gene, Good for you for being a caring son. May the love and care that you give to your mom, come back to you ten fold! Pat K

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disbelief Yikes, your story makes me cringe soooo bad! I am sorry, as a Nurse, that this happened to your Mom! I agree with you, and would tell any of my staff when I was a Nurse Manager, if you have lost your compassion, find another job! The schedules, number of staff, yes, all give reason for delays- but purposeful disregard and ignoring of any patient is unacceptable!

I would go straight to the Director of Nursing with your complaint, and "cc" the CEO of the facility. Any reputable facility will not tolerate this type of treatment of any patient. If that staff person did that to your Mom, I wonder how many other patients he/she has done this to? Anyway, I hope your Mom gets well soon.



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 Gene sorry that your mother was treated so poorly, hope she mends soon.

 There is no excuse for such unprofessional treatment. For the sake of your mother and others I would request a meeting with the hospital Administrator. Try and get the local media involved, the hospital and staff should get a dose of humility.



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A quick update, at 82 mom seems to be progressing well, we have seen a positive change in her attitude. At her age and condition it just as much about attitude and desire to live as it is about physicall health. We have made the appropriate complaints as it pertains to moms care but have also realized that unfortunately the SYSTEM is really what cares for mom and it has it's limitations. Thanks to all who have commented and shown support...G

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